"Hoʻoponopono" is defined in the Hawaiian Dictionary as "mental cleansing: family conferences in which relationships were set right through prayer, discussion, confession, repentance, and mutual restitution and forgiveness." In the context of the word Ho'o means to make and pono is correct or right so specifically the term ho'oponopono means to make right.
I have been studying this for months now and using it in my own personal life. I am so mad at myself for not sharing with you all.
The approved Mantra for ho'oponopono goes like this:
Please forgive me.
I love you.
My interpretation: I'm sorry we had a disagreement, let's work on a way to make it better. Please forgive me for anything that I may have said in anger or misunderstanding. I love you for who you are regardless of what has happened to create this misunderstanding. Thank you for being who you are and what we have been together.
This mantra can be done individually with the selected person or persons brought into your consciousness or in the group. In a group it is usually facilitated by a healing priest or kahuna.
I look at this as a type of intervention, a way to get things back in order. Please take some time to ponder on these things. In my experience with my situation, I was deeply hurt by someone and felt a lot of anger and emotion towards this person. Had I been able to, I would have smacked them across the face when it first happened. However, I chose to seek the counsel of those people I reached out to in the ho'oponopono community online and in their books and teachings and began to do the mantra as part of a daily meditation. I then spoke the mantra words with my explanations to the person and was able to turn the situation around. We are currently speaking again although still with some reservation due to the situation that happened between us. I hope that the same can be accomplished with this for you in any of your situations.